As I was scrolling through my Facebook feed yesterday, I noticed that many of my friends were sharing an article on thebolde.com entitled "10 Things People with Anxiety Are Tired of Hearing" which reminded me to do this post. Like a great number of people in my position, I feel that society's general idea of autism is skewed by stigma, prejudice and stereotypes, resulting in numerous misconceptions. These are often addressed to us in questions and statements that unintentionally come off as questionable, offensive or both.
From these, I have selected the ones we'd like you to be aware of the most and am going to make a few rules to keep things orderly.
*No entries involving the r-word, I have a whole post and video focused on that.
*No entries that are (almost) universally condemned such as death threats.
*No entries specific to a certain person, they need to be applicable to multiple people with autism.
One thing you'll notice is that many of these seem benign and a few may even surprise you. You may stand by some of these entries and I am not trying to offend anyone. There are many things that didn't make the cut, but I rounded up the 11 I think you need to be aware of. Why not just do ten like most lists of this sort? It never kills to go a step further than what's expected of you. Also, yes, the numbering here is largely arbitrary. So, without further ado or further warning, here is...
11 Things Adults With Autism Are Tired of Hearing
01.) "You don't look/sound/act autistic."
02.) "Are you really autistic? Were you misdiagnosed?"
03.) "When were you cured of autism?"
04.) "People with autism are not imaginative or creative."
07.) "Autism kills people/is deadly."
08.) "Don't vaccinate your child, it will cause autism and ruin their life!"
09.) "Autism is just a brat/the result bad parenting ."
10.) Any references to us as 'autistics'
11.) "Autism doesn't make a difference in the workforce."
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